Knowledge

Nowadays, with the ‘information at your fingertips’, it is so easy to gain information…

Information is merely information. I guess that is why so many netizen are being mislead by the information. Whatever…I am not here to preach about netizen and the keyboard warrior and such.

Childbirth.

When I was pregnant, I read everything about childbirth! Every single thing except one… ceaser! I was so determined about having a natural childbirth, I refuse to even think about it. I read about epidurals and such...not because I intend to have them, but because I want to let my body know that having epidural is one way to jeopardize my natural childbirth. Alhamdulillah I was blessed to have a natural childbirth…

But at the same time, in the farthest corner of my heart and mind, I remind myself that if I have to be operated, I will accept it with and open mind… but only if I have to!

Breastfeeding.

I read and when my son was born, I asked the nurse if I am doing it right…I asked several of them because I can see the doubt in their eyes..as if they are not sure….should have asked for a lactation consult! Isk…

But I went home and I read some more… I was surrounded with people who are breastfeeding their child… I joined the breastfeeding group…

Even now I am still reading and learning about breastfeeding. I learn about my body…about how if I didn’t eat rice the night before, I will be in trouble the next day. I learned that if I drink enough water, eat sensibly and pump on time, I am close to be one of these oversupply mom (but nope…I don’t want that!)

Everything else.

It is the same with everything else. Learn and learn some more. How hard could it be? Ask around. Read books and not some bogus online article! Get reliable sources.

Surround yourself with negative thinking and you will fail even before you start.

Love

Do we love ourselves enough?

As I was driving home yesterday, I was trying to come up with a plan on how to lose some weight before I become overweight.

Before I knew it, my mind wonders into something else… I asked myself, do I love myself enough?

Do I love myself enough?

If I do, then why am I not taking a better care of myself?

I started to come up with a conclusion, family with happier and healthier wife/moms, last longer. They are happier and healthier as well.

It is true what they keep on repeating in Rio 2, ‘happy wife, happy life’.

I am generally happy. I am in love and I love my small family.

But who am I kidding? Who am I lying to as I ignored my health? As I ignored the fact that I haven’t lose any weight since I gave birth to prince a year ago.

As I was chasing the ball with him the other day, I can feel my ankle ‘moaning’ in pain due to my weight.

When I saw my own picture, I saw a tired person, unhealthy even, with her chubby cheeks (and it is not even cute!)

How can I be healthy when I weight this much?

Oh if only you guys know how much I’ve suffered due to this!

mumble shuvvle

Jom update blog sebelum blog ini menjadi padang jarak padang terkukurrrr

1-     Ada org kata, minum susu lembu, kita akan dapat DNA lembu, jd kita akan jadi pemarah. ehmmm….memang dalam islam jelas dikatakan, we are what we eat…..tapi agak2la kak oiii…. totally disagree with how she explains it. If it is that easy to transfer DNA, then we will have millions of XMEN…you know, the mutated human being!

2-     I am still bfing prince! yeayyyyyyyy……why do I need to share it?! because it is hard work!!! and because august is world breastfeeding month and because it is my blog!

3-     My battle with my weight is never-ending issue. I miss the normal weight me. I have never been skinny and I will never be skinny. but I am so tired physically and mentally of being overweight! when will this end?!

4-     Ada org kata, dia dapat duit derma berbilion2 …ehmmmmm….whatever. I am done judging you. Pemimpin yg kejam akan di adili di akhirat kelak. eh noooo….i am not saying that our pemimpin is cruel…I am just saying, ‘ pemimpin yang kejam akan di adili di akhirat kelak.’
 
that’s it…hehe….too many things on my mind….and I just cant arrange them in words…its all mumble shuvvle in my head…..

UTC - Urban Transformation Center

UTC

UTC

pusat lalalalalala

berkhidmat UNTUK rakyat!

Sekiranya buat mykid d JPN (jabatan pendaftaran negara), mengambil masa 1-2 hari untuk siap. Halangan terbesar untuk pergi ke JPN di sini, parking! Not to mention the distance from parking to the building itself.

Then they build UTC. The building is so pretty, expensive (well…it looks expensive)…tiles and all…fully air-conditioned. The carpark is nearby. With elevators! The design is so modern and airy and impressive. So we were excited to go there. After all, the distance between JPN itself and UTC here is about 10-15mins of driving.

Tetapi…tetapi…sekiranya buat mykid di cawangan JPN di UTC, mengambil masa 3 bulan utk siap!

Reason?

• JPN di UTC tiada mesin pencetak mykid.
• Borang mykid yg di hantar ke JPN di UTC akan di hantar ke Kuala Lumpur untuk di proses.

Sebab itulah kami mengambil masa 3bulan untuk menyiapkan mykid encik!

My question is,

•       Why can’t they afford their own printing machine in UTC?!
•       Why can’t they simply use JPN in Kuching to process all the forms HENCE shorten the period?! (not to mention the financial cost of sending the documents to Kuala Lumpur….labour cost, time cost!?! )

I don’t know how efficient other department in UTC is but this definitely ruin my expectation!

And as always, you guys are wasting our money! 

We are paying everything yet the service still S*U*C*K*S!

Folic Acid

There has been a debate about the function of folic acid in fertility, especially woman fertility. It is general knowledge that folic acid is needed to lower the risk of having a baby with a neural tube defect (spina bifida)…in other words for your baby’s nerves and spinal cord to develop properly you must consume enough folic acid during pregnancy.

Lately, more and more moms say they become pregnant after consuming folic acid religiously! So I do what I did best….google! I google and found reliable articles regarding this. According to the article, folic acid can actually help human to conceive!

How?

 Apart from helping our fetus to grow healthily, folic acids are also helping our body to produce a healthier eggs (and sperms!)…when our eggs (and sperms) are healthy, the chances to conceive are much higher!

In other words, folic acid is not a fertility treatment drugs! But it can be considered as a supplement to boost your fertility! That is why you need to consume folic acid the moment you are trying to conceive!

how do I know this?!

I have an acute-reading-syndrome! :P

used to

I used to write all the time. Let it be blog post or a diary entry, I used to write it wherever and whenever about whatever.

Somehow that changed… and I am not sure why.

I guess it is because my life is less complicated now. My life is not easy but it is not as complicated as it used to… and yes… it is less exciting as well.

Nope…scratch that…for me it is exciting. It is just that right now my world revolve around my son… Every day is a new day for us and it is so exciting … yesterday I saw him climb up the sofa so effortlessly…and it bring tears to my eyes. I am proud and touched at the same time… time fly so so so fast… I teach him the words ‘minum’ and he says it after me ‘nummmm’ … my heart leap in joy!!!

haha…see!

It is that kind of things and I don’t find that urge to share everything about him here or anywhere else….of course I wanted to talk about him alllll the freaking time but I also realized how boring it is to others! (not that my blog was that interesting before right?! and yet here you are…reading my boring post :P)

So yup…that’s why I don’t blog anymore. Plus my passion are only in breastfeeding now…and also being a mom…you guys can always ask me about breastfeeding! Please do…I am willing to do extra reading about it! muahaha…. my husband said I have a disorder…. ‘acute-reading-syndrome’…heh heh heh… but it helps me a lot. Who am I without knowledge right? And it is soooooo easy to get reading material nowadays! 

things an adult should know

1. myanmar is out.....you know..just like israel is! 
2. merancang keluarga secara tidak kekal adalah harus dalam Islam...merancang keluarga secara kekal adalah haram.
3. coke zero contain aspartame more than our body can handle.
4. cecelia ahern novels are the best...especially 'the book of tomorrow'....oh nope..especially 'if you can see me now".
5. When you are a parent, you dont need to be a kid specialist, you just need to be a specialist in your kids.
6. messy house is ok. Dirty house is not.
7. ......to be continue

Breastfeeding tips – Rare

.....we all heard the classical advice on breastfeeding....the list below, however, is new to me... 

1. Get enough sleep and rest.
2. Never let yourself become hungry. Snacks on fruits and such between meals
3. The cheapest and greatest milk-booster is plain water. Drink lots of plain water throughout the day. Drinking it at one go is almost useless
4. Night feeding (direct latch/pumping) can help you to maintain your supply 

To be a centenarian

#1 – Moves…always

               It means be active all the guy. The 100 year old guy still drives himself to the gym. He still works out at the gym! The 100 yr old lady still gardening 3-4 hours everyday.

#2 – eat healthily

               We should eat less meat but more vegetable. Avoid processed food. Stay organic…stay natural.

#3 – Love your family

               Have a great relationship especially with your family members; your spouse, children, grandchild, siblings etc

#4 – Have life purpose

               People, who want to live longer, will live longer. People who don’t, might get their wish granted as well.

#5 – (I honestly cant remember the last tips)

I watched Khawater last night. Shuqairi visits 2 of the centenarian. One of them is the lady from Okinawa. Not only she is 100 year old plus, she is still active. Mind and body! She even cooked for them. Her wish is that when she gets old (as if she is still young! Haha)….when she gets old, she will get sick for 10days at most then die. She didn’t want to be a burden to anyone.

The second centenarian he visited was an old wise guy from Loma Linda, California. The guy can still drive. His destination? The gym! At the gym, Shuqairi notices there other people in their 60s working out…like it was a no big deal. Shuqairi asked him what his worst day was (or hardest day…can’t exactly remember which)…anyway…the old guy finds difficulty to answer it. Finally he said it has to be the day when his wife died, which is a few years back. He even remembered their last conversation together;

Her: I love you.

Him: I love you too.

Her: I love you ‘three’ …

It must be a very heartwarming memory for him because we can see him smiling fondly as he remembers it…

…

i want the medssss..........

went to the doctor ( after so long!)
i was feverish yesterday with sore throat and the flu
so yup....was feeling sorry for myself till i went to the doctor, hoping she can prescribe me something strong enough to cure this 'sorrow' but mild enough that it is safe for my prince (since i am still breastfeeding him)!

guess what?! she refuses to give me any medicine! huwaaaaaaa....she said its not that bad and frankly, its not worth it...

i hate and love her at the same time!!!

breastfeeding change my life...

Antibiotic

The fact is after your baby has taken antibiotic, most of her good bacteria will be dead as well. (just like us adults).

It is no surprised that most kid will get sick repeatedly even after taking antibiotics and other meds religiously.

It is a good idea to ‘maintain’ or ‘breed’ the good bacteria before, during & after taking antibiotics.

One of the easiest ways is by eating pre- and probiotics…ie yogurt and such

Another way is to avoid antibiotics all together. Kids below 1year old are not encouraged taking any meds anyway.

There is no need to take antibiotics if your kids just have the regular flu…or the regular fever….increase their fluid intake, monitor their temperature, keep them cool (using wet towel and such)…

Most of the time, I went to the doctor just to be sure that it is nothing serious.

Most of the time, the doctor will prescribe medicines for our little one.

If it is nothing serious, why not skip the med?

Once you give your kids antibiotic, it is highly likely she or he will need it again sooner than later… :(

Just something to ponder…

 

p/s: this is based on my readings on articles by my beloved homeopathy doctor...lets read more... ;)

Reverse Cycling

Nope I am not a cyclist now…. I am still a breastfeeding mom! 

Do you know that there is such term in the world of breastfeeding?!

Reverse Cycling!

Hikksss….macam2 la skarang

Anyway, reverse cycling is when baby is nursing more at night instead of day time.

It is ok as long as baby is gaining weight and active (means they are not starving!)

This may happen due to; i) baby too active and too distracted to nurse at day time

ii) mom is too busy to nurse/ working moms

No 1 is exactly what happened to my baby. He started to stop sleeping through the night when he was around 5-6months. The same time when he started to become more interested in his surroundings. I can remember clearly that was the time when the ‘niplash’ started:

Get the idea?! (don’t forget to imagine the pain…. :P)

So anyway….since then, we never sleep through the night again. I can’t remember the last time I have a really good night sleep.

At first, I was pretty depressed about it. I miss my sleep and I am tired all the time. I become cranky and snap at everything…everytime!

But now, I accept the fact that I will never ever sleep through the night again! And I should remind myself that our breastfeeding journey will end sooner that I imagine T_____T

So I am embracing the moment :D

Milk kick in

Okay….hello new mamaS

Let’s talk about ‘milk kick in”

I don’t know who invented this term.

I am not even sure what exactly it means.

Based on my reading on the group, where this term was use far too often, it simply means when your ‘real’ milk come…after the colostrum…

So my question is that, colostrum is not ‘real’ milk?!

I have no idea why such term was created.

What I know is that, this term allow some moms to whine and cry about how their newborn tummy are not full because their milk haven’t  ‘kick in”.

Feels like kicking myself whenever I say ‘kick in’!

What is that?! What is this?!

Your newborn tummy is unbelievably small when they were born! Few drops of colostrum will keep them satisfied.

So why did they refuse to let go of their mommy nipple?!

Because that is the closest they can be from their previous home; your womb!

Because that is the only way they can hear the sound they have been hearing for the last 9 months; your heartbeat! (though I am not so sure how good is their hearing..kikiki)

Because that is the warmest and coziest place on earth for them!

And because, that is the stimulation you need as a new mom for your breast to start producing more milk! (ohhhh…maybe this is where this term started! Okay…my bad)

Women not only need to love their body more…but they also need to trust their body more.

They need to believe that their body are design to survive labour and to give birth to child and they need to believe that their boobies are design to nurse their babies!

Of course there are some of us who have some challenges…but lets cross the bridge when we get there.

Why can’t we simply believe that we can do this?!

And remember…walking is natural as well…we never doubt our feet when we started to walk…but it still need some practice….

Same like breastfeeding.

The best part is, we are now old enough to learn more and to understand more….(compared to the time when we first take that 1^st step!)

All mamaS got milk! :D

When it hit….it hits the hardest

Last week was such a crazy week at work. Super stressful. Super busy.

My yield drop….crazy drop….I power pump like crazy…I eat like crazy as well.

But nothing works! Trust me…

I was close to tears!

Oh well…I was in tears…as I was driving home one afternoon, sending 1 bottle for my baby…just one! When I know he needs 2 bottles at least…I cried…I can feel my heart is broken. Is this the end?!

Never knew it will be this emotional!

Or I am this emotional!

He is turning 1 in 3 months!

Should I stop?!

Of course not….

I guess it is the worst so far because it is that time of the month as well.

Hormonal plus stress at work…

Haihhh…. I can’t stop…I won’t stop…

So now the supply is back up…very slowly…but hopeful…I have to…I have no choice

So keep on pumping mamaS

p/s: what I did was, I feed him more solid food and more plain water….they need to eat more anyway…hahaha….

Why I wish my 1 year old drink (milk) less...

 ... and eat more.

Little one is turning 1 soon.

He is still exclusively breastfeed.

He is also taking solid. Breakfast (most of the time). Lunch and early dinner (or should I say high tea…cuz he would have it around 6-630pm)! Now he even have the appetite for dinner (around 8 pm).

I do hope his milk-drinking session would slowly decrease. I don’t want it to totally stop. NO! but I do hope he would rely more on the food for his energy. WHY?

1st- my milk production is getting less and less…but it still meet his demand! I see this as good and bad thing. I don’t want to wean him yet but I just can’t produce milk just like I did before. I couldn’t miss even one pumping session. Or else he won’t enough milk when I am at work.

2^nd- I refuse…strictly refuse to give him formula milk. I do hope my milk will last till he is at least 1 year and above. The good news is, once your baby turns 1, he can drink milk. I mean true milk instead the formula  heh….i am not informed enough to tell you about formula milk vs real milk. All I know I don’t want my kid to drink formula milk simply because I want him to eat/drink less processed food/drink.

3^rd- I read about how our 2 3 year old rely on milk for their energy. They refuse to eat real food and parents spend fortune on buying milk (money is an issue!). Most of the time, the kid will become underweight/overweight, have dental problems (because most of this milk has high sugar content) and worse, drinking milk far too much, can cause kidney problem (read about this from an article written by a homeopathy doctor…and it seems logic!)

There. That’s my three reasons. I am not an epitome of health. I am overweight most of my life and I am just turning 30.

I just hope my kid will be healthier… ;)

co-sleeping

I would like to dedicate this post to all new moms out there.

It breaks my heart to see post from new (and mostly young moms) on how their newborn refuse to sleep alone. Or how those moms complain and asking advice on how can the train ( I repeat TRAIN!) their newborns, how to sleep alone. Usually they describe their newborn as cranky or clingy or plain needy.

Your newborn has been inside of you for 9 months. He is used to your heartbeat. He is used being wrapped inside of you. He is used to the warmth and dark inside of you.

Suddenly he was born…and every single thing change! The bright light. The cold room. The noise! Oh the noise…he was so used to your heartbeat and maybe your tummy rumbling now and then. Suddenly that was gone. Now the world is louder…much louder…and brighter!

So it is too much for them to ask for your warmth…your hug to keep them accompanies allll theee time?! Yup….it seems impossible at first…but trust me…this is the beginning of a less cranky baby (read LESS).

Here is my story.

My son was admitted the 2^nd day he was born. He was jaundiced right from the start. And I was among the lucky ones who get the mobile-phototherapy thingy. So what I did was, I started co-sleeping with my 2 days baby on the hospital bed!

 Some of the nurse was not impressed at all. Who cares? Right from the start, I realized that my baby sleeps better when I am next to him. Especially at night! So during the day, I leave him in the basinet …and at night, we move the thing to our bed. He sleeps right next to me…the phototherapy thingy above him. Lighting him fluorescent blue! 2 weeks! That’s how we sleep.

When we went home, the co-sleeping continues. Fast forward 10 months later, he still co-sleeping with us. Me and hubby. Of course he conquer 50% of the bed…another 50% for me and hubby….with hubby 45% and me 5%! Hahaha…just kidding... but yes! We still sleep together!

So what do I have? I have a very less cranky baby! I am serious. When me and husband are around, I can say it is easy to comfort him. Of course he does cry…that is how he communicate…

I hope this continues. I hope my baby and me continues to understand each other. 

Although I am preparing myself for his above 1 year tantrum…..finger-crossed!

But hey….our 1^st year together has been so amazingly pleasant! Okay…pleasant enough… :P

p/s: here is the image on the joy of co-sleeping.... 

Annoying

How annoying it is to have a mosquito in your office?! Just that one little thing….. just that one tiny weeny mosquito….yup…I am pretty much annoyed right now.

How annoying it is when one person is telling a story, and before you can even complete one introductory sentence, the other person jumps in with her opinion. Hello! I haven’t done talking.

How annoying it is to have your neighbor cats wondering around your house, stealing food? I guess it is even more annoying when you realized that your neighbor has dozen of cats and quickly you assume that the cats are not well-fed…thus explaining their stealing!

Oh well…there are thousands of things I can be annoyed at. I used to be far more easily annoyed before this… well…I still am….but I am learning to hide it. To let it pass before I even realized it…. I realized that my life is far too short and I have too many blessings to be counted (count your blessings, remember?!)….

So now whenever I started to get annoyed, I will say, ”La haula wa la quwwata illa billah”. (Tiada daya dan tiada kekuatan kecuali dengan pertolongan Allah semata-mata)…. There is no strength without Allah’s help…. The same zikir I keep on saying when I was in labour….seriously….no…seriously! or when my baby was warded…never underestimated the power of zikir!

Have I told you guys about this one family? From the moment I enter their house, to the moment I leave, they never stop berzikir! Allahhuakbar…the serenity you feel entering their house is indescribable! Don’t get me wrong…they do chat with you….but they weave in the zikir in between. It was so beautiful and peaceful.

Peace. :P

New Year

Nothing much has change.

Except I am getting older…and wiser…AMIN!

My mind is very occupied lately, I find myself thinking about one thing after another.

This morning I woke up and as I was nursing my son, I felt like I’ve been up for hours. ‘Looking’ into my brain, I realized I’ve been thinking about so many things at one time….work, home, my son, his food, his nanny, his tummy-trouble… aha…I know I know…all I can think about is my son.

But I am sincerely tired. I am losing my focus. I can close my eyes and ‘feel’ my brain going to 1001 directions! My body is tired but my mind wont stop thinking!

My main concern right now is shah diet…he started solid months ago. Before this it is just introduction…but since he is turning 1 soon, food no longer just an introduction to him. He needs it for his active lifestyle (hihi..as if he has other lifestyle! :P)

I need to stock up my fridge and my kitchen pantry ( reminds me…I need to have one! A proper one…aiyerrrr)

So so tired…..oh…and happy new year