"Why, as a general
community, are we not putting the same pressure on women to encourage them to
continue to seek Islamic knowledge? Higher education? To make objectives in
their lives which will carry over and aid them in their future familial lives,
if such is what is meant for them? Perhaps it’s because we’re obsessed with the
idea that women need to get married and become mothers and that if they don’t,
they have not reached true success."
“You just need to think harder
about the "single at heart" option than the "coupled at
heart" option, because the latter is just assumed. It's our mental and
cultural default option.”
There are so
many more articles written by the knowledgeable person out there. Just be
careful of what you are digesting…you might get intoxicated…
I am getting
immune to the question why am I still single? Why am I not looking for a
husband?
Or the question
that can make me roll-my-eyes 3600 “Why
didn’t you want to be with him? Is he not good enough for you? Why are you so
choosy?”
How should I answer
that?
I know they
meant well, but I wish they do understand that it is not the topic that we want
to talk about on daily basis. We have so many more things to do, to think
about, and to discuss with you. So why oh why are we bombarded with such
questions as if not getting married is the worst thing ever?
By the way, do
you know that “spinster” actually mean a woman who is economically independent who
could support themselves by spinning wool? (Bella DePaulo, 2010).
Notice how we
changed the definition of the word into some women nowadays dreaded?
It is a shame on
us.