I heard
somewhere that if you are single by the age of 30, you will become
self-sufficient. You know and you do rely on yourself... it become harder for
you to rely on others and....
...and maybe
that is why it is getting harder for you to find your lifetime partner...
Sure...you do
socialize...your mum introduce u to a dozen girls or boys...but none meet the
criteria...have u ever thought that it is not because they are not good enough,
but it is because you are so self-sufficient till you don’t find the need to
have someone in your life...(you even plan to adopt a child)...
Imagine
this....u are in your comfort zone....so why would you want to get out from
it?! Especially when there is no need of it...
Generally,
self-sufficient means you rely on yourself for most thing. You cook and do your
own laundry...you are capable of doing the groceries shopping alone....you can
watch the movie alone in the cinema without feeling pathetic at yourself....you
enjoy having your meal alone....in the same time you have such a great group of
friend.....(in other words, u r not a total recluse!)
Some may even
define self sufficient as someone whose personality is vibrant and have a
strong functioning social network and not in any committed-i-want-to-marry-you
relationship.
As a muslim we
were encourage to get marry when it is time, when we are ready.
For me the
key-phrase is "Open Your Heart"....if its time for you to get
married, then you will get married. Don't concentrate on it too much, you'll
end up depressed.
Don't completely
forget about it, you'll end up rejecting everyone....