So lately I’ve
been hearing whines from my single-super-marvelous friends about people asking
them, “bila gik nak nikah tok?” or “pahal lom kawen?!” or the best thing would
be, “iboh choosy gilak bah! Kawen gik sia!” …(stop being so choosy…get married
already!)…
Huwau…..friends,
I was in the same boat before. Persetankan mereka! (I am not sure what ‘Persetankan’
mean, but hey…it sounds right!).
I know
someone who would say this each time someone ask that stupid, insensitive
question to her, “tunggu makan hol kitak lok!” …rude and cruel but serves them
right.
Never judge
people! Never ask people when will they get marry and never ask married people
when they will have a child. Never tell them not to wait too long. For all you
know, they have been waiting their whole life and your stupid selfish question
is the last thing they wanted to hear!
On the other
hand, to my married friends, or to all my
married-having-a-blast-just-have-kids-or-still-in-the-honeymoon-phase friends
or my i-am-getting-married-soon friends, we are not better than our
single-amazing-independent-strong friends. We could lose it all tomorrow and
they can very well have it all tomorrow. Don’t judge. Don’t think that just
because we did it earlier than them, we are wiser! (trust me…it doesn’t necessarily
means we are!)
I wish I can
give comfort to all of you. I really do. It’s hard. I know. I’ve been there.
Felt that. All the time I can only smile faintly. What else can we do at that
moment right?
Xpa. Hidup
tok adil. Kita mungkin kurang di department A tapi kita lebih di department B.
Kita mungkin miskin harta, tapi kita kaya budi pekerti.
p/s: god
bless each and everyone of you. This Syawal I met so many amazing people! Wonderful
people who shows me “biarlah kita miskin harta, tapi jangan miskin budi pekerti”…
makin daif kehidupan seseorang, makin besar hatinya … makes me feels like
betapa la kecik sebenarnya kita tok!