"u r so in to me!"

its fun to think that way sometimes

but!

BUT

be realistic

xmola syok sendiri...

;)

ok...so i read this online;

"...when we see someone we really like our eyebrows will arch defying gravity, our facial muscles will relax, and our arms become more pliable (even extended) so we can welcome this person. In the presence of someone we love, we will mirror their behavior (isopraxis), tilt our heads, and blood will flow to our lips making them full, even as our pupils dilate...." ( Joe Navarro, 2009)

it is so easy to read some simple sign from the people we encounter...

another easy body-language we can read is how they turn their body towards (or away) from us. if the girl is interested in you, although she may act nonchalant, her body language may give her away...(unless she is fully aware of her emotion and body language...and able to control it = almost-ice-queen)..same thing with guys....(that is how i know that u like me...or not! huhu...)..but doesnt mean that you wanna marry me right? don't get me wrong people!

Notice how some people will conclude their conversation when we start to back away from them? (well..some people just too lost in their voice they couldn't read the signal we give...but most of us are normal people :D)

That is another simple body language that people can easily decipher... ;)

so next time when you are chatting with a friend or anyone, try to pay more attention to their body language. You can learn a lot from it.....

have fun! ;)

Insecurity

I posted the above picture months ago. I was reading a book in a bookstore (ngeso rajinnn…hah hah)…when I came across this chapter ....

So the above picture describes 1 type of insecurity. It is an insecurity that most of us felt from time to time. No…do not deny it. I dare to say that all of us human do feel insecure at least once in our life time.

Another type of insecurity is when you get so obsessively possessive of your love ones. You felt like everyone is trying to steal your girlfriend/boyfriend/fiancé/fiancée/wife/husband from you. You can even feel so obsessively possessive of your child, you are scared that if you let your child play with your friends far too long, your child might love your friends more…hmmmm….

I always remind my girl-friends that being so insecure can be a major turn-off to a guy. Even as a girl, I kinda get uncomfortable around guy who is so insecure, till I feel I am manlier n more masculine than them. ISKKK

I am a true believer of “if you love someone, let them go. If they return, they are yours. If they don’t, they never were”….and also “love is like butterflies. Hold them too tight, and you’ll crush them. Hold them too loose and they’ll fly away”…

I guess the key word is moderation. Never love someone too much till it become an obsession. Till they have the power to scare you, to emotionally-blackmailed you. It is worst if you are in a relationship with someone with superiority-complex plus narcissistic. They will totally have their grip on you if you are so insecure! 60% of your relationship will be misery and worrying and feeling so insecure and obsessive-jealousy…pity you girl…60% misery? U need to reassess your relationship…either change things…or change and start new… ;)

Just have faith. The guy chooses you. Guys flirt around all the time. It’s harmless. It is fun. (Though it is not really accepted in our culture…but every guy did it…most guys did it). Girls did it too…in their own subtle way. Don’t be too obvious of you’ll end up being labeled as _______ (fill in the blank yourself).

Just have faith. The guy chooses you. They call you and they asked you to lunch. They introduce you to their friends (guys wont do that unless they are proud of you.)

Guys are like rubber band…they need to stretch-out from time to time. Then they’ll bounce back stronger than ever. If the rubber band didn’t bounce back, then it’s a low-quality rubber band (ahaha)…but it’s true and same applies to guys. Renung-renungkan.

Be the girlfriend your boyfriend can be proud of. Guys love confident girls. Be moderate in most things (be too confident and you’ll intimidate the male population). Don’t be a turn-off. Be the girl that your boyfriend can show-off to their friends (better yet female friends)… ;)

Lastly….cuz you’re worth it…u totally worth it... :D

just an update

It’s officially outside office hour

But due to my low-tolerance towards traffic-jammed, I choose to leave the office later than the rest of us.

So what is up with me?

Nothing much...

I’ve been running here and there for the last couple of weeks.

Raya has been a perfect combination of family, friends and food.

The fact that I lose few kilos allows me to indulge as much as I can without feeling that guilty.

(and now I am facing the consequences! The event is just few months away and I m as chubby as ever..adoiii)

Last night was such bliss. I want to compliment myself for successfully organizing a reunion dinner for us. (Though there’s nothing much to ‘organize’ really…with facebook everything is so simple n direct).

I highly recommend steamboat for any sorts of casual-fun-friends gathering. Last night was truly fun and I hope the rest of us agree with me.

Thanks to a friend for suggesting Heritage Garden Steamboat, Jalan Nanas, Kuching! ;)

Yesterday is the meet-the-lecturer day for our new students. The fact that my kj chose a picture of me eating (or rather me sitting at a dinner table with fork in my hand n a plate of spaghetti n chips in front of me and me smiling so widely) actually make the hall burst with laughter. The rest of the lecturer has their passport-pic shown….isk…except me…haha…but that’s ok…I love that picture anyway… :P and I hope the student will remember me more..ngeh ngeh ngeh…

To you…thanks…you helped me to make this all a reality…thank you

;)

Expect the unExpected

I have a rather dire topic this morning.

Read this first Bashed up by family of ex-wife

This is just a reminder to all of us...especially me.

Always expect the unexpected.

I used to feel like it’s impossible to intentionally hurt the person that we used to love…physically or emotionally.

But now I know it’s so possible.

Forget the unintentional ‘wrestling’ that happens when 2 people get caught up in the heat of an argument or such.

When our emotion hijack our rationality, even the sweetest person can be a cold-hearted-murderer.

I know someone who is so realistic I used to think it’s ridiculous.

But now I understand that it’s better to be safe than sorry.

Should you have an ugly-messy breakup/divorce, never be too safe.

Even if you have a clean breakup/divorce u can never be too safe.

Heh… if you don’t even have any breakup/divorce u can never be too safe.

Like I said, people can be crazy.

Lack of emotional control and lack of faith, god knows what people are capable of.

As for us, keep our emotion in check.

Stay calm.

Never be too happy or too sad.

Don’t force yourself to laugh when your heart is hurting.

Try harder to remain calm instead…and smile more.

:)