co-sleeping

I would like to dedicate this post to all new moms out there.

It breaks my heart to see post from new (and mostly young moms) on how their newborn refuse to sleep alone. Or how those moms complain and asking advice on how can the train ( I repeat TRAIN!) their newborns, how to sleep alone. Usually they describe their newborn as cranky or clingy or plain needy.

Your newborn has been inside of you for 9 months. He is used to your heartbeat. He is used being wrapped inside of you. He is used to the warmth and dark inside of you.

Suddenly he was born…and every single thing change! The bright light. The cold room. The noise! Oh the noise…he was so used to your heartbeat and maybe your tummy rumbling now and then. Suddenly that was gone. Now the world is louder…much louder…and brighter!

So it is too much for them to ask for your warmth…your hug to keep them accompanies allll theee time?! Yup….it seems impossible at first…but trust me…this is the beginning of a less cranky baby (read LESS).

Here is my story.

My son was admitted the 2^nd day he was born. He was jaundiced right from the start. And I was among the lucky ones who get the mobile-phototherapy thingy. So what I did was, I started co-sleeping with my 2 days baby on the hospital bed!

 Some of the nurse was not impressed at all. Who cares? Right from the start, I realized that my baby sleeps better when I am next to him. Especially at night! So during the day, I leave him in the basinet …and at night, we move the thing to our bed. He sleeps right next to me…the phototherapy thingy above him. Lighting him fluorescent blue! 2 weeks! That’s how we sleep.

When we went home, the co-sleeping continues. Fast forward 10 months later, he still co-sleeping with us. Me and hubby. Of course he conquer 50% of the bed…another 50% for me and hubby….with hubby 45% and me 5%! Hahaha…just kidding... but yes! We still sleep together!

So what do I have? I have a very less cranky baby! I am serious. When me and husband are around, I can say it is easy to comfort him. Of course he does cry…that is how he communicate…

I hope this continues. I hope my baby and me continues to understand each other. 

Although I am preparing myself for his above 1 year tantrum…..finger-crossed!

But hey….our 1^st year together has been so amazingly pleasant! Okay…pleasant enough… :P

p/s: here is the image on the joy of co-sleeping.... 

Annoying

How annoying it is to have a mosquito in your office?! Just that one little thing….. just that one tiny weeny mosquito….yup…I am pretty much annoyed right now.

How annoying it is when one person is telling a story, and before you can even complete one introductory sentence, the other person jumps in with her opinion. Hello! I haven’t done talking.

How annoying it is to have your neighbor cats wondering around your house, stealing food? I guess it is even more annoying when you realized that your neighbor has dozen of cats and quickly you assume that the cats are not well-fed…thus explaining their stealing!

Oh well…there are thousands of things I can be annoyed at. I used to be far more easily annoyed before this… well…I still am….but I am learning to hide it. To let it pass before I even realized it…. I realized that my life is far too short and I have too many blessings to be counted (count your blessings, remember?!)….

So now whenever I started to get annoyed, I will say, ”La haula wa la quwwata illa billah”. (Tiada daya dan tiada kekuatan kecuali dengan pertolongan Allah semata-mata)…. There is no strength without Allah’s help…. The same zikir I keep on saying when I was in labour….seriously….no…seriously! or when my baby was warded…never underestimated the power of zikir!

Have I told you guys about this one family? From the moment I enter their house, to the moment I leave, they never stop berzikir! Allahhuakbar…the serenity you feel entering their house is indescribable! Don’t get me wrong…they do chat with you….but they weave in the zikir in between. It was so beautiful and peaceful.

Peace. :P

New Year

Nothing much has change.

Except I am getting older…and wiser…AMIN!

My mind is very occupied lately, I find myself thinking about one thing after another.

This morning I woke up and as I was nursing my son, I felt like I’ve been up for hours. ‘Looking’ into my brain, I realized I’ve been thinking about so many things at one time….work, home, my son, his food, his nanny, his tummy-trouble… aha…I know I know…all I can think about is my son.

But I am sincerely tired. I am losing my focus. I can close my eyes and ‘feel’ my brain going to 1001 directions! My body is tired but my mind wont stop thinking!

My main concern right now is shah diet…he started solid months ago. Before this it is just introduction…but since he is turning 1 soon, food no longer just an introduction to him. He needs it for his active lifestyle (hihi..as if he has other lifestyle! :P)

I need to stock up my fridge and my kitchen pantry ( reminds me…I need to have one! A proper one…aiyerrrr)

So so tired…..oh…and happy new year

9 months later

9 months later…and guess what is on my mind?!

Breastfeeding! Heu heu heu…

Talk about being stuck doing something…

Nope…scratch that…I am not stuck doing it….it is just something that I have to do and I am doing it willingly (excuse my complains dear mr.husband!)

Do you know that breastfeeding moms are not encouraged to donate their blood?! You are allowed to donate blood 9 months after childbirth but if you are still breastfeeding, they do not allow you to do so. Some may let you but not here in Sarawak.

Do you know that breastfeeding moms burns extra 500kcal perday?! (“errr…..so why are you still as big as jumbo dear mommy?!”…err I cant really answer that… T____T)

Do you know that for the baby to be truly benefited from breast milk , they must be fully breastfeed for more than 6 months?

Do you know that the breast only produce one type of milk…that is breast milk! Heu heu heu….but the older milk will lose its fat after sometime (but not the nutrition) and we call this foremilk…it is lighter and has less fat…then the fresher ones has more fat ..so it is heavier(?) and it is call the hind milk … both are beneficial to baby. Our granny are right about breastmilk being “air dan nasi”… but one thing they get confused is that, both breast will produce that ‘air dan nasi’ …and not right breast ‘air’ and left breast ‘nasi’…  so dear mommy, you should feed your baby from only one breast per session…if your baby is still not full, and your breast already emptied, then you can change to the other side….pahe dok mu? ;)

Do you know that breastfeeding is the most effective contraceptives?! My gynae told me this…so I think it must be true….

Do you know breastfeeding is the most natural thing to do…but like walking, it takes some practice. :)

Happy breastfeeding mommies! 

Don’t stop…don't ever give up...when you said you can’t do this anymore, delay it for another day…say that you will do it for just one more day…and the next day, say it again, “just one more day”….and before you know it, you will be breastfeeding your child for 2 years! Most moms who stop breastfeed sooner than they planned to, regret it sooner or later! …

so ‘just one more day!’

Surviving

There is one tv programmed that I truly love right now, ‘Surviving Motherhood”. Its on EVE chanel…cant remember when because I have it recorded every series.

Anyway, how should I describe it? Every week a group of mom, who have never met, come together and discuss motherhood issues. Mind you it is about everything…including “sex vs sleep”..ahaha…you know how open orang puteh are!

What I truly love about this program is that it is so spontaneous. And the issues they are discussing are real!

Besides getting advice from other mom on the program, they also give us advice from the experts. So there, it’s not totally bogus…

Come to think of it, moms do need friends. They need mommy friends. Moms worry about everything all the time. So they need friends who can actually rationalized them, all the freaking time! HAHA…

I am lucky to have this one group of friends, we have never met in real life (some of them actually manage to meet…but not me…huwaaaa)…anyway, we first ‘met’ in babycenter then someone suggest that we form a whatsapp group…so we did…at that time we are just entering our 3^rd trimester…and now here were are…our babies are crawling and climbing around! :)

They are my savior….we talk about our babies all the freaking time and we talk about everything else some other time….we talk about everything! Haha…luckily it is not a public group.

So my advice to you is, get friends…make friends…make friends with the same interest…

Right now I am looking for a group of breastfeeding mothers…heuheuheu….so I can complain n whine without being judged! :P